This episode is a special edition of Weighted Wisdom in Your Ears.

It is a public posting of an Energy Broadcast System (EBS) episode which is a tool to support my subscribers’ health and wellness journeys. It is broadcasted to them every 6 days via a private podcast.

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Our health and wellness path can have many challenges. It can be hard to stay the course. I strongly believe this broadcast can be a valuable tool in support of your journey. The broadcast isn’t a scholarly study of the I Ching but rather it is structured around the wisdom of the I Ching, or Book of Changes, which is one of the oldest surviving texts still in continuous use - about 3,000 years old. It has been favored, studied, and annotated by many prominent psychologists, scientists and philosophers. It has influenced major Eastern traditions, modern spirituality and analytical psychology. I often share this information using the language of the IGNITE Her® Frequencies which is a modern translation written by a woman for women.

I’ll share information about the changing background frequencies that are all around us - kind of like an energetic weather. Then we consider how those frequencies might be leveraged to support our health and wellness journeys. And I’ll challenge you to invite the frequencies into your life for self-study and raising your frequency because your perspective, your interpretation and your experience are the only thing that really matters.

While it is designed to support women in their wisdom years, the underlying messages are universal, and all are welcome to tune in. So I invite you to share this episode with anyone who might benefit. But understand it’s created to support my ladies who are 50+.

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Emotional weather is part of being human. There's something in the current energetic landscape that may help you navigate that weather without unnecessarily abandoning, overcorrecting, punishing yourself, or renegotiating the future you're building.

This episode is a special edition of Weighted Wisdom in Your Ears.

It is the introduction to my Energy Broadcast System (EBS) which is a tool to support my subscribers’ health and wellness journeys. It is broadcasted to them every 6 days via a private podcast.

I want all readers who stop by the Weighted Wisdom publication and the Weighted Wisdom in Your Ears podcast to have access to this introductory episode and an EBS broadcast.

🎙️Have a listen to this Introduction then head over to the The Energy Broadcast System 6-36: Your Feelings Don’t get the Final Vote to experience what a typical broadcast provides.🎙️

If it serves your health and wellness journey and helps you stay the course, I invite you to subscribe to receive a new EBS broadcast every 6 days.

Subscribe now

What is the EBS?

Our health and wellness path can have many challenges. It can be hard to stay the course. I strongly believe this broadcast can be a valuable tool in support of your journey. The broadcast isn’t a scholarly study of the I Ching but rather it is structured around the wisdom of the I Ching, or Book of Changes, which is one of the oldest surviving texts still in continuous use - about 3,000 years old. It has been favored, studied, and annotated by many prominent psychologists, scientists and philosophers. It has influenced major Eastern traditions, modern spirituality and analytical psychology. I often share this information using the language of the IGNITE Her® Frequencies which is a modern translation written by a woman for women.

I’ll share information about the changing background frequencies that are all around us - kind of like an energetic weather. Then we consider how those frequencies might be leveraged to support our health and wellness journeys. And I’ll challenge you to invite the frequencies into your life for self-study and raising your frequency because your perspective, your interpretation and your experience are the only thing that really matters.

While it is designed to support women in their wisdom years, the underlying messages are universal, and all are welcome to tune in. So I invite you to share this episode with anyone who might benefit. But understand it’s created to support my ladies who are 50+.

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To receive future EBS broadcasts, become a subscriber. You can expect to receive a new broadcast every 6 days. It’s free. You can unsubscribe at any time if it doesn’t support your health and wellness journey.

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Relocation is a common goal at the threshold of retirement. Sometimes it’s to move back to a beloved place, sometimes it’s to be near grandchildren, other times it’s to experience an interesting place at a deeper level. A client, originally from the Pacific Northwest (PNW), had taken a job in the desert southwest. Over the years, she had built a whole life in her desert southwest home – interesting activities, friends, church, adult kids and grandkids nearby. But the reason she left the Pacific Northwest, the job, was no longer going to be in her life. She was retiring.

Her life in the desert was good. She was happy. But she felt there was something missing. She missed the moisture, the rainy days, the trees and the abundant green of the northwest. She said she especially missed the smell of the earth after a rain. She didn’t have family in Oregon anymore, but she felt like it was her true home. She wasn’t sure if the PNW dream was just an old dream that had gotten stuck in her consciousness by playing it on repeat over the years or if it was something she really wanted.

If you read my Fan the Flame article, I invited you to stop listening to your start-and-quit stories of yesterday, and to start thinking about why you keep starting. This isn’t quite a start-and-quit story but it’s quite relevant because it gets at one possible reason we keep starting, or thinking about, the same goal.

It is easy to get caught in a redundant thought-cycle like the groves on an album. The same song keeps playing in our head. We often don’t stop to check if it’s time to put on a different album. Perhaps the reason we’re not making progress on a goal isn’t lack of discipline, energy or time. Maybe, we’re no longer really attached to the old goal. We’ve changed, we’ve grown, we’ve evolved. The goal was just an old mental story stuck on replay – and our lack of progress toward it might be our own instinct protecting us from investing in something that we no longer actually want.

Relocation is just one version of this. For you it might be the thirty pounds you’ve tried to lose four different times. The garage you’ve committed to cleaning out every January for the past 10 Januaries. The trip to Paris you’ve been “planning” for years. The business, the hobby, or reconnection with old friends. It looks a little different in every life, but you recognize the experience – a goal that keeps resurfacing, that you keep restarting or thinking about, that you can’t seem to either finish . . . or finally let it go.

We get caught up in these old goals from an earlier version of ourselves (hello, bikini body), guilt (“I have the time now so I really should . . . volunteer . . . take care of my dad . . . babysit my grandchildren”), or the quiet pressure of society’s expectation of what women of a certain age are supposed to want (that senior bus tour through Italy, following a guide holding a little sign up in the air). There’s nothing wrong with any of these things - unless they don’t really belong to you.

A common question we ask ourselves is, “What do I really want?” Admittedly, it’s not a bad question. It invites a pause and brief mindful reflection. The response to this self-inquiry is often a shrug accompanied by, “Uhm, I don’t know.” Uh oh! Now what? Many people will just set the thought aside, eventually leaning back into the old goals-on-repeat and get stuck in the mundaneness of daily life.

A higher value question is, “What is asking to be called forward?”

Huh?!? Some ideas and goals have been with us for so long that we mistake their age for the truth. But “what is asking to be called forward,” gets at the heart of what is worth preserving because it holds real value – what holds real value for who you are right now and for who you’re becoming. By contrast, it highlights what needs to be left behind. Dragging old baggage forward weighs you down and prevents you from expressing the highest version of yourself. Knowing what’s being called forward is what resources you for the future you want to have.

This is frequency work disguised as goal setting. Frequency is the soul piece in how I work with women — the layer underneath the to-do list, where you find your way to the actual vision for your life instead of just the next task on the list.

I come to this work through IGNITE Her® Frequencies, a design framework rooted in the ancient wisdom of the I Ching. In my own design, this particular instinct traces back to my single-most dominant frequency — the I Ching identifies it as Gate 32 — the pull to preserve what has lasting value while avoiding the repetition of past mistakes — its highest expression is bravery. Bravery to discern what has value to us and what doesn’t. Bravery to release the form without discarding the wisdom. Bravery to fail forward rather than clinging to the familiar because it’s comfortable or, maybe, once worked.

I didn’t choose to be wired this way — I just am. So it’s probably no accident that mining the past to resource the future is the work I keep coming back to, for myself and in service to the women I work with. And the practice of raising frequency doesn’t sit in tension with any faith-based beliefs and practices that you already have — rather it supports your clear expression as a conduit of that faith.

By not automatically following the pull of an old dream nor instantly dismissing it, my client with a PNW vision gave herself space to investigate what was underneath her desire. We took a deep dive into the retirement experience she wanted to have – how she wanted to feel, what she wanted her days to look like and what experiences she wanted to immerse herself in. We deliberately didn’t name a location for the vision. We wanted to create a neutrality around the zip code. Instead, she held those desires in her body, not just her head. Then, we assessed the characteristics and opportunities in her desert home, in her old Oregon town and another PNW location, all relative to the vision she held for her future. What did she want to preserve from her pre-retirement desert life? What did she need to bring forward in her life to be the highest version of herself? Would relocating even serve her vision?

She researched and made a couple of trips to the PNW. Once she had the information she needed and had done the frequency work, she found her best fit – not in her previous town, but still in Oregon where she bought a condo. She spent that first summer there, out of the extreme desert heat, and her kids and grandkids were able to visit. She went back to the desert in the winter. She eventually sold her desert home and stayed with her kids whenever she was in town.

The relocation goal wasn’t the only goal in her vision. It was more than a shift in geography. She wanted to paint, and the landscapes surrounding her new home gave her the exact inspiration she needed. The goal wasn’t to get good and sell her art, the goal was in the painting itself – the immersion of herself in the landscapes she had held to for so long. This kind of creativity is a sacred act for an artist.

It was never a question of should I stay or should I go. Or what do I really want. It was about what was being called forward. Discerning what was worth preserving for the future. Raising her frequency to the level of bravery. That’s when goal setting becomes frequency work – and frequency work is an integral piece of ending the start-and-quit cycles.

It’s important to note the bravery didn’t come in one big action. The path to get there was kaizen-in-action; not perfect steps all lined up from the beginning, but continuous progress — one action at a time while holding a vision. If you want to know more about kaizen, you can do that on the Weighted Wisdom About page. It is a core practice that sustains how I show up in life and informs all that I do.

🎙️💿It’s your turn💿🎙️

Is it time to take the old album off repeat and change the music? Or is there something in the old song that’s asking to be sung again? What capacities do you need to carry your vision forward – literally? That’s where we’re headed next.

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It’s a cruel joke. We think maturity will solve our issues with self-doubt, lack of commitment to ourselves, and motivation to get shit done. Spoiler alert for those of you just entering your wisdom years, it doesn’t.

Many women undervalue themselves and underestimate their abilities. Many women struggle with this their whole lives and carry it into their wisdom years. We think that as we get older that we will “outgrow” this, but instead, an aging body can amplify these feelings.

Our body starts to send warning signs. It might start with getting up from a chair at the office and having a hitch in our giddy-up; we’re a little embarrassed and frustrated as we hobble through a few (or more) steps. We think, “I’m getting older but I’m not that old yet.” We recognize it’s time to take some action on it though. Some women will even join a gym or hire a trainer, but it doesn’t stick. There may even be a few cycles of start and quit, but it never quite sticks. We get a little out of breath going to the mailbox and back – it starts with an awareness of a little discomfort and takes a couple minutes for our breathing to return to normal when we get back home with our mail. We find ourselves reaching for the handrail to go up and down stairs because our legs feel heavy and tired when they have to work under their own power. We begin to notice a little teeter in our balance when we step off a curb or walk across a rocky median in a parking lot. These are warning signs.

Unfortunately, simply being aware of the warning signs doesn’t improve the situation. As a retired physical therapist with 23 years of clinical experience, a certified personal trainer and a national board-certified health and wellness coach, I feel waaaay more than qualified to state the obvious: without consistent intervention, the warning signs just get louder and more urgent.

The inner talk becomes, “I’ll deal with it when I retire.” For those of you who have crossed the retirement threshold, you may have noticed that’s another cruel joke. Without the ongoing structure that a full-time job and family life gave us, we more often than not just don’t magically start taking care of those high value things in our life. It’s not just the aging body we’re not attending to either.

Some women make detailed to-do-lists and take great pleasure in checking boxes on the list when they change the bedsheets, wash the towels or pick up the groceries. Don’t get me wrong, I love a good checklist; the dopamine hit when I check a box is fantastic! Those checklists can make us feel like we’re being soooo productive but it’s all smoke and mirrors. Sure, we’re getting some ordinary things done which deserves recognition and a self-provided pat on the back. But more important than checking the boxes, we owe it to ourselves to take an honest look at the items on the list. How many of those items are needle-movers - high value actions we know represent a true investment in our future selves?

So many women leave the workforce with a plan or a goal. A decade later they’re still spinning on the same goal. Weight loss is the most common goal my clients have, but I see it in decluttering, relocating, socializing, engaging in meaningful work and many other amazing desires these women have. They’ve started so many times but can’t keep it going. Many clients come to me extremely frustrated. Some have become almost apathetic, “Maybe it’s just not meant to happen for me.” While the latter makes me really sad, I also recognize they reached out to me for support which means there is an ember of the fire still burning. That’s all we need.

If you’re moving toward the retirement transition or have already crossed the threshold, realize you have the power to turn your goals and plans into reality. Don’t let your future self be caught in a decade-long spin. And if you’re already spinning or even in a state of apathy, know you can still fan the flame. I cannot even verbalize how much I love seeing an ember grow into a full flame. I’m dancing in my chair with a big grin on my face just thinking about it.

When the switch flips for a client from, “I’ve tried everything and can’t seem to stay on track,” to,” I can’t believe I just did that,” that’s what fans my own flame! As if that isn’t enough, when I help one woman flip the switch, I know it ripples out to her family, friends, community and beyond, and we all get stronger. As His Holiness the 14^th Dalai Lama once said, “The world will be saved by the Western woman.” My business mentor and coach, Julie Ciardi of 50 Not Finished, says the world will be saved by the IGNITED woman.” I couldn’t agree more.

🔥 Let’s fan your flame!🔥

What’s burning inside of you? For just a few minutes, stop listening to your own stories about the start and quit cycles of yesterday. Start thinking about why you keep starting. More on that to come.

The science of strength with soul — because your wisdom years deserve more than a scale and a meal plan. This is where: negotiation with slow decline is unacceptable, building more than just our body is admired and lifting more than just weight is valued.

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